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     25       <div class="title">What I do when my mental health goes down <span class="date">[2024-10-22]</span></div>
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     28           I was diagnosed with Bipolar Type 2 and Social Anxiety disorder when I was 17 years old. I remember when I was
     29           doing High school, the 2 years I did, my disorder became intense, and I succumbed to psychosis heavily. I
     30           remember that I could not wake up from my bed and particularly could not go outside of home. It is very hard to
     31           think about those happenings again now. I felt that everybody was acting against me and at one point I thought
     32           my mother was poisoning me with my food.
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     35           I’m very lucky, I got a treatment from a psychiatrist at the end of my 2nd year of high school. My mother
     36           noticed and took me for the treatment.
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     39           We can name many disorders in a patient by doctors and till now to be honest I do not know whether I’m diagnosed
     40           correctly including the meds I’m taking continuously for the last 9 years. It does help to some extent where my
     41           mood swings are not very worse. The anxiety I have when I go outside is a bit tricky to handle though.
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     44           Again, being on medications does help and ease certain things. And as always there are side-effects to this. My
     45           nerves seem to be getting weirder, and I’m noticing that my fingers start twitching now and then.
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     48           But I worry less about this, and the reason is why below content.
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     51           This is one part of me living with Mental health disorder and I know that this is certain that I cannot get a
     52           cure but that doesn’t mean that I cannot live. I will now come to the other part, which is a portion of mine, I
     53           see as a good thing, which is handling when I know when I get into it. Because I know when you are living with
     54           this sort of disorder for a longer period, you can predict and feel when you are down and depressed. In my case,
     55           I can do that, and I often be conscious about that. I never hesitate to share what I want to share with others,
     56           because there is nothing there to hide and nothing there that is non-universal. Everything has its own purpose.
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     59           So, in those words I feel that life is not alone. Because I feel we are not alone here and after and more so, I
     60           can go ahead and say - the universe is not alone. Everything is an embodiment not one of either but both. There
     61           is both good and bad, there is both negativity and positivity, there is both silence and sound. Thus, there is
     62           both presence and absence. The presence when you are in the comfort of a person can also be felt in their
     63           absence if you seek it.
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     66           I feel this understanding and it is there to move further and keep breathing, that I am not alone here and
     67           after. This is not just a thought that I keep motivating myself. I do not want to motivate and get motivated; I
     68           just want to live and walk the walk. If I do this, life will take care of it by itself. It is very simple, keep
     69           breathing. How worser can it get, I do not know – I just need to keep on breathing and that’s all.
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     72           My master “Fr. Korko Moses” who is a Christian Priest but teaches from all the religious texts and embrace the
     73           self-experience of oneself. He is more of a seeker than a religious person I would say. He told me this
     74           quotation quite strongly when I was with him. He did not put God in it although the original quotation has it;
     75           maybe because he might have thought that we didn’t come to that point and likely our interactions were lasting
     76           only for few years till he became ill with Parkison and moved to a place farther away where I could not travel
     77           to see him up until this point neither speak with him on Phone because his voice had become weak and he is
     78           feeble. And the quotation is:
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     81           “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom
     82           to know the difference”. It is <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer" target="_blank">here in
     83           detail</a>.
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     86           This is a beautiful one and the trickier thing is the wisdom to see and understand the difference, particularly
     87           for a person with bipolar disorder, I would say.
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     90           All those 3 things come through practice and practicing is what life is about. I take one step at a time:
     91           Acceptance is what when you realize that in life certain things are the way as it is. Courage is when I see that
     92           I can help make the difference in others’ lives and do it by helping; by sharing. Wisdom? I let it come by
     93           itself.
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     96           The last thing I need to share here is “Training your mind”. There is a Tibetan traditional teaching called
     97           “Lojong”. It basically means, “Mind Training”. And I saw a speech online from one of the people who does this
     98           teaching. And that person is “Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo”, if I recall now – on all her sayings in the talk, she
     99           calls it and portrays the Mind training, a Jewel. And I say here and now that this is the Jewel I am seeking for
    100           by practicing and I hope you too!
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